WRITTEN BY RICO SHADES, GUEST COLUMNIST
I’m going to discuss something that might be a bit uncomfortable but unfortunately is all too common: single mothers. We make it too “convenient” to be a single mother in this country and frankly that is one of the many culprits adding to the plight. Be clear, single mothers are not a monolithic group. I am not talking about divorcees, women who have lost their spouse to death, women whose spouse was gravely injured at work, successful women who may have adopted due to their inability to have children, etc. I am specifically talking about a group who are not financially stable that make the idiotic decision to bear children.
This is not to say that children that come from two parent homes are guaranteed success, because God knows I know of some downright idiots that came from wonderful homes. Nor is it to say that a child reared from a mother only will be a “statistic;” look no further than the current President of the United States for that. However, in the words of Chris Rock, “Hell, you can drive a car with your feet but that doesn’t make it a good fucking idea.”
When discussing welfare reform, all too often the discussion centers on what constitutes qualification for the receipt of benefits. However, in my opinion the discussion should focus on lowering the number of people receiving benefits in the first place. I don’t have the statistics in front of me and I don’t want to engage in hyperbole but I don’t think I would be going too far out on a limb when I say that single mothers make up a large percentage, if not the outright majority, of that group.
There used to be a stigma with having kids out of wedlock. That shit is not cute and kids are not a game. Now if you are around twenty-five without kids (male or female) there are certain segments of society that look at you like something is wrong with you and that’s a fucking shame. I don’t know if it’s a case of daddy issues, a yearning for attention or wanting something to love (as if this human being is a toy or pet) but this teen pregnancy dumb shit has got to stop. It’s an endless cycle of welfare and those kids, as well as the society that foots the bill as a whole, are paying for it dearly. I mean we have laws that require you to get a license to operate a vehicle in this country but any idiot can have a baby. No money, no housing, no food, no insurance… just two pair of hands shaped like a beggar’s cup looking for help. Be clear, none of us is beyond a mistake. However, once is a mistake, twice is a choice and I don’t know what the fuck you would call the Octomom.
All too often this is also a case of some girl trying to latch on to a male that doesn’t want anything to do with them beyond the physical. Most times, what that girl looks at as a bundle of joy and with love, that male looks at as a bundle of bills and with envy. Ladies I know it is a harsh reality, but tell a man you’re not married to or have had a “fling” with that you’re pregnant and watch their reaction. All of them will shed a tear but I assure you 99.9% of them will be tears of disdain, not bliss.
If you’re not stable (I didn’t say rich, but stable) it is downright selfish to even consider children. If your situation is fucked up, why would you subject another human being (who doesn’t have a choice to be here) to that? Please believe there isn’t a poor kid in this country that when alone doesn’t ask the question in regard to their situation “why me?” I’m not saying they don’t love their mother, I’m not saying they don’t play the hand their dealt. But I am saying think about someone else besides you when making that choice to bring life into the world.
Then there is another group that is perpetually even more tragic than the teen mom: The Gold Digger Gang. It is a damn shame but there are bitches (I refuse to call them women or even girls for that matter) whose sole goal in life is to be impregnated by someone of means so they can sit on their ass. They plot, prostitute, scheme, connive and do whatever it takes to catch someone’s eye. The sad part is if they put half the energy into building something of their own that they do plotting most of them would probably be successful. Some will succeed in their quest and although society is not losing in this example since child support is being paid (some of which is more than the judge that awarded it grew up on but that’s another matter), an abundance of those kids still do because once again it’s another fatherless child.
To keep rewarding irresponsibility with greater welfare checks is dumb. Especially when all too often the money isn’t even going to the kids it was intended for in the first place, but being diverted to buy luxuries that should be reserved for people that actually work. I think it would be a big coo to society to take the financial incentive out of pregnancy. For example, pass a bill that says in January 2015 teen pregnancy is no longer covered or that no unwed mother will be eligible for child support. It would have to be a future date, because there are tons of people who are already pregnant and cutting them off would be tragic. However, for anyone contemplating it in the future; well you have time to decide and if you want to do it you’re on your own. Sounds far-fetched huh? Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t depending on your perspective. However, I assure you that if such legislation was passed that shit would do more than any form of birth control ever has. With no money on the table, I bet we won’t be having many more “accidents” then. Call it class warfare if you want but we have more than enough drains on society and people taking up good oxygen now.